As Seen In; Let’s Talk Safe Sex

Well it’s that time of year again, PRIDE, and I for one am looking forward to it big time! The people, the energy, the vibrancy, feeling, attitude, camaraderie, unconditional love and support! Need I say more? Oh yeah, the sex, lots and lots of sex, and more sex!



Celebrations like these generally warrant the abundance of love and PDA’s and not so public PDA’s. The closed door action, or in my case the open door action! Come on, I’m no angel and most of you know that from what you’ve read, seen, or taken part in with me and my gang. I love a good ol’ celebration as much as the next person and I get right down to it if given the chance! Go for it, call me the “ethical slut” I’ll gladly own that one.

We all get a little crazy during times like these and sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we are not as safe as we should. Yes I am guilty and felt just as equally terrible for not being as safe as I should have been, but I didn’t beat myself up over it. We all make mistakes, but it’s times like these that we should be just a wee bit more careful so as to not end up in a situation you didn’t want to be. Don’t you agree?

I am not interested in preaching to the perverted cause that would make me a hypocrite, but I am interested in talking a little self awareness. It’s a fact that STD’s and HIV rates rise amongst the MSM community during PRIDE celebrations globally, and given the circumstances I can understand how it happens.

However, keep in mind this is also a time that sexual health, safety, and practice information are readily available. You’ll be hard pressed NOT to find a health group out there over the PRIDE festivities handing out brochures, information, lube, lotions, potions, and condoms. FOR FREE! Take them, keep them for yourself, give some to your friends, even your straight friends in suburbia. If you don’t get them that way, well don’t forget your local sex boutique or drug store.

One of the initiatives I like is HIM, Health Initiative for Men here in Vancouver. These folks have gone to great lengths to get the message out there. From their office on Davie St. they make the rounds to the pubs, clubs, stores, and rec-centres, distributing info, and a safer sex pack that includes all the essentials, info, lube, and a condom for those on the go. They even have a dispenser at some local establishments.

I know a good percentage of us won’t be so clear headed over our queer holiday and that from a multitude of reasons. Which brings to mind these SLAM parties fast on the rise based around chem-sex. I’ m not here to judge, nor do I, and nor will I, as I can tell you I’ve had my fair share of induced romps. I just hope we can make some good decisions to keep infection rates down and our sex healthy and happy. Yes this is about good decision and negotiation practices as consenting adults.

Whatever choice you make is yours and I will 100% respect that, so on that note if you’ll excuse me, I am off to open my door, wave my flag, and share the love!