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Here is an interview I recently did with Romeo Reyes of Zen Tattoo, who also happens to be one of my tattoo artists. Romeo is a FtM on his journey  of life and asked if I would sit for him! Being the media whore I am naturally I said yes!! Watch my shy self all casual in a chat with Romeo!! OOXX  Find Romeo here

For those that live in areas where four distinct seasons are what you’re fortunate to indulge year round, such as myself, protection or adornment of some kind for the lips is mandatory. Barometric pressures rise and fall like the underwear of the sexually promiscuous at a constant and consistent rate akin to that of a straight eight cylinder engine roaring up and down the highway. As a result, dryness occurs requiring lubrication to keep things from cracking, drying, and over heating. (more…)

Messing up the sheets with passionate, romantic sex is always on the table. Everyone of all sexes loves to be wined, dined, and romanced as enticement for sexual activity. Lit candles, flowers, chocolates, gifts, generally lay the ground work for the type of sex a person is about to have, romantic, loving sex. Sex that is definitely with it’s merit, because sex of any kind, at anytime, is always good, and as we all know good for many reasons. However, what if a little raunch is what you’re wanting? How do you get it, ask for it, and what’s it that you’re hoping for or wanting?

How does the cute brunette that loved to be passionately kissed while in the missionary position, go to doggy style being pummelled at the speed of light with her hair held like the reigns of a thoroughbred in a dead heat for winning the Brown Derby? The sexual practices indulged as youth were for the most part a serious learning curve, an educational journey that got us to the types of play we enjoy as determined adults. What was once loved and cherished as the sometimes awkward sexual activities for most in their youth, is not the case anymore. (more…)

Spotlight on Community Partner This month, SWAN talked to sexual health educator, sex work activist and dominatrix Velvet Steele and asked her about lube.

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The gag reflex for beginners, it’s not as easy as you think!

I get asked this a lot, and god only knows why, but the question is how to control your gag reflex during oral play? Maybe it’s the aura I give off, but I want to remind you that I am human just like all of you and I encounter challenges just like anyone else! For now, let me share with you a little advice that you can take for whatever it’s worth.

We all like to think of ourselves as the best at providing oral pleasure and for those of you gifted, you’ve gotten past the gag reflex able to rise to the occasion like a true champion of deep throat diving. As you may, or may not know, it takes practice and sometimes a lot of practice, practice that’s not without it’s fair share of watery eyes, smeared makeup, and saliva you could fill a cup with. So if your cup runneth over, it’s nothing to be ashamed of, quite the contrary, you’re just fortunate enough to have salivary glands (more…)

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Recently my personal trainer had the pleasure of beating me up, well I like to think he was beating me up but the truth is he was putting me through it after an almost two year hiatus on the part of both of us. He knows what I am all about and get up to in my spare time, so naturally we share stories and opinions with each other. Only this time was a bit different, not because of anything special, but more because of what he asked me, “so what’s sexy this week?” To be honest, the question made me think because I hadn’t actually given it any thought. I am so used to running around being inspired by pretty much any, and everything that comes across my path, but this week nothing had done that….yet!

At the gym the next day (cause I am obsessive compulsive) while reading the local edition of Vancouver 24 hrs, in an article about sexual consent, it occurred to me that what is sexy this week IS consensual sex! The article talked of pink packages being handed out at Simon Fraser University by the Women’s Centre aptly called the “Consent Toolbox”. The idea is to spread (more…)

As we all know the central core of Vancouver is jam packed with high-rise buildings to the point of being known as the most densely populated downtown in all of North America. It goes without saying that “things” get seen and “things” get done. The things I am talking about are sex, and lots of it! Downtown dwellers are doing it from the ground floor and up, all the way to the rooftop (and that equates to a lot of window space). I consider these as stages of the theatres in the sky of each and every building visible on the city skyline. Red-hot stages displaying the actions of the adventurous that have chosen not (more…)

How do you screen your clients? How do you know they are legit? How do you know you’ll be safe? Questions that always seemed to be asked of me when providing the services of a Pro-Domina was my main stay.

It wasn’t old hat from the get go, but let’s just say that it certainly didn’t take long! In the early days of using the phone, long before pagers and cell phones, yes I am going back a bit, security was of the utmost of importance. It wasn’t because I was reading horror stories of folks going missing because of sex work, it was because it made COMMON SENSE! (more…)